A woman who was talking to a romantic prospect took away his chance to reply to her after he ignored her on a dating app for 21 hours – and people have been left divided by the decision
The world of online dating can be difficult to navigate, but one woman was so sure of what she wanted that she blocked a man who wasn’t living up to the standards she had set for herself.
KD, who posts on TikTok as @cxidxmxriee, admitted she “stopped talking to a guy because he took too long to reply” and said she felt as though her “reasoning is justified.”
KD said she and this anonymous man had been speaking “all last week” and things were going smoothly. They seemed to have a lot in common and they “really hit it off” as they had the “same values, same sense of humour” and she genuinely wanted to meet him, which doesn’t happen often for her.
She said that she felt he was “giving the same energy” of wanting to meet – or at least he was until the weekend came around.
She said that in the morning, they were talking as normal, and then at “midday, nothing.” KD thought nothing of it initially, assuming he probably “had plans” and was “seeing his friends or his family” and reasoning that he doesn’t have to “reply straightaway”.
But when he didn’t reply for the rest of the day, she began to think something was a little fishy, saying it was “a bit rude at this point” because it was the evening.
She was wondering why he couldn’t have sent a “courtesy text” to explain that he was doing other things so may be slower to respond. But then she said: “21 hours later, Sunday morning, this man texts me.”
He asked her whether she’d had a “good weekend,” leaving her confused because “the weekend’s not even over yet.” She said she was being “mad f**king blunt at this point” with him because she was mad and she thought he’d “taken the p**s.”
“You’re either into me, or you’re not,” she fumed, continuing: “He was like ‘did you get up to much?’ and I was just like ‘nah I just chilled’. I didn’t ask him what he did, and his next message was, ‘I went out’. F**king no s**t Sherlock, obviously, you went out because you f**king aired me for almost a day; I didn’t think you were f**king dead.”
Then, around midday, he stopped replying to her again out of the blue, which left her more seething and “a bit over it.” She said if his intention was actually to meet her and go on dates then he wouldn’t be “longing me off for a whole f**king day – two days in a row.”
She decided to take away his “opportunity to reply” and KD deleted her last message, unmatched him from the dating app, and “unfollowed him and deleted the chat.”
“Unless you’re on death’s door, 12 hours is a sufficient amount of time to reply to a f**king message if you wanted to,” she seethed, continuing: “You obviously didn’t want to, you were using me during the week because you were bored, and I was someone to entertain you, and then the weekend rolls around, you’ve got better plans, you’ve got no f**king time for me, so you’re not replying to me anymore. It’s as simple as that”.
KD explained that it was ultra annoying, because the guy wasn’t even her type, he was older, and had a career, and “still, the behaviour is this”.
In the comments, other women warned KD about what this may mean. One wrote: “Someone whose contact gets less evenings and weekends is a tell tale sign of someone in a relationship eg they can only text freely at work”.
Another said: “But seriously, it takes 2 seconds to say ‘I’ll be busy. I’m not sacking you off’. They know how to behave when they want to.”
Someone shared: “From his messages, he’s definitely messaging other people, and their conversation has taken priority. That has tailed off, and he’s come back to yours with ”how was your weekend”?”
“100% agree with you; currently dealing with the same thing, asks to make plans then either doesn’t speak to me or makes up some mad excuse why it didn’t happen in the bin”, a TikTok user fumed.
Another woman shared her story, saying: “I was in the exact same situation earlier this year, was speaking to a guy for ages last year into this year, and I liked him, and he said he liked me until one day he was giving 2-3 day replies and I found out he was talking to another girl, but he was never honest about it and now they’re together which broke my heart a little bit, but honestly I just knew I had to leave that situation because it’s happened to me before and I’m bored of being taken for a fool.”
Some defended the man’s actions though, saying that people “have a life”, with someone saying: “Talking stage should be causal everyone has a life a day isn’t bad to not text back girl”. One man even labelled her as “harsh” for setting the boundaries.