New research shows a quarter of adults have found themselves ‘switching’ places with their parents earlier than expecting – taking on significant caring responsibilties
Adults typically ‘switch roles’ with their parents at the age of 48, becoming more of a caregiver than a child, according to a poll. The survey of 500 adults aged 50 and above revealed that 54 per cent feel they have swapped places with their mum or dad, usually when their parents hit 73.
From this age, many find themselves helping their parents understand official documents or digital devices, and taking on larger responsibilities like driving, managing finances, and handling household maintenance. The research, commissioned by Consultus Care and Nursing, found that for a quarter of adults, this role reversal happened earlier than expected.
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While a third felt a sense of duty to start doing more, for many, the turning point was a decline in their parent’s physical health or mental wellbeing, signalling a clear need to step in. This either occurred due to general old age, or when 25 per cent noticed their mum or dad becoming forgetful.
For a quarter of adults, they took on tasks when their other parent had passed away. The OnePoll data also revealed that, in order to look after their parents, 19 per cent have had to cancel social plans and 18 per cent have taken annual leave from work.
Peter Seldon, CEO of the care brand, said: “So many adult children today are quietly carrying the weight of care, often juggling work, family and everything else life throws their way.
“For this ‘sandwich generation’, it’s an emotional experience that’s seldom discussed openly. Recognising when support is needed, and having open conversations about it, can make a real difference to everyone involved.”
The research also discovered that adults typically ring their parents to check on them three times a week and visit them twice, with 33 per cent having set days on which they assist in caring for them. On these occasions, they will usually do some gardening jobs, rearrange the bins and recycling and sort through the post.
Two thirds believe their parents feel most relaxed at home, as they are familiar with the layout and have helpful neighbours. As such, nine in 10 said it’s important for their parents to stay in their own home, to help them maintain their independence.
Nearly half would be devastated to see their parents leave their homes to receive care, with a quarter finding comfort in the idea of carers visiting them at home instead.
Jane Pochel, nursing consultant at Consultus Care, said: “We see every day how much staying at home matters, not just physically, but emotionally. Familiar surroundings give people a sense of control, confidence and calm. When families are able to support that, it can ease the pressure and bring comfort to everyone involved.”