Youngsters can grow fearful in times of conflict, even if they are not directly involved. Here’s five top tips on how to discuss the difficult subject of war with them
Donald Trump has warned Israel against launching further attacks on Iran, hours after saying a ceasefire between the two sides had taken effect. The US president today criticised both sides of the conflict, after each accused the other of breaking the US and Qatar-brokered truce.
Back on Thursday June 12, the Israel Defense Forces (IDF) told people in Tehran’s District 18 to evacuate. Hours later, the first volley of strikes, which Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu said targeted the heart of Iran’s nuclear programme, was reported in the city.
Retaliations have continued ever since, with the United States getting involved at the weekend to bomb three of the Islamic republic’s key nuclear sites. UK prime minister Keir Starmer this week warned of a “risk of escalation” after the US got involved.
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Conflict has raged in Gaza since October 2023 when Hamas-led militant groups launched a surprise attack on Israel. And with conversation about the conflicts reverberating around social media, on the news, in school and the home, many children are asking questions.
Ane Lemche, a psychologist and child counsellor at the Save the Children charity, has the following top tips on how to discuss difficult topics with your kids and reassure them if they are fearful. The UK organisation works in more than 100 countries to make sure children are fed, educated and treated fairly.
1. Encouragement
“Give children the space to talk when they want to, even if you’re in the middle of something else,” says Ane. “Encourage them to tell you what they know, how they feel and to ask you questions.”
2. Adjustment
The age of your children should affect how much you say – while older children will need more details, younger ones may just need to know that sometimes countries fight with one another. It’s important to arm yourself with the facts and answer questions calmly and honestly but be aware sharing too much information too soon could cause anxiety.
3. Validation
The psychologist says it’s important to allow your child to share why they are upset, angry or feeling in any other way about the war, making sure they don’t feel judged. “Speak to the child about how they feel,” says Ane. “It is important that children feel supported in the conversation.”
4. Reassurance
It’s important children know war isn’t their problem to solve. Remind them adults around the world are working to solve the conflicts. “They shouldn’t feel guilty playing, seeing their friends and doing the things that make them feel happy,” says Ane.
5. Practicalities
If children feel helpless, suggest things they can do to allow them to be part of the solution. A fundraiser, writing letters to decision makers or creating drawings for peace for some simple suggestions.