Tam Kaur, a 24-year-old YouTuber, is telling women to leave their boyfriends at home and solo travel – something she promised herself she’d do before she got in a relationship
A woman says ditching her boyfriend to go on holiday alone is key to the success of their relationship.
Tam Kaur, a 24-year-old YouTuber, is telling women to leave their boyfriends at home and solo travel. The Londoner has travelled by herself to Paris, Amsterdam, Cyprus, and even New York, and is now urging others to follow in her footsteps.
“Before I met my boyfriend, I made a promise to myself that I would still prioritise me, and solo travel is what that looks like. So many women leave this behind when they get partners because we’re expected to holiday with them, but that’s just not necessary in my eyes,” she said.
Tam first explored solo travelling in late 2023, sharing her trip to Amsterdam online and documenting her first-ever flight alone.
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“I was terrified. I was so used to my boyfriend leading me through the airport, but solo travel was on my bucket list, so I did it anyway. It changed everything for me. It helped me discover my love of solo travel,” she said.
“You learn to be okay being alone with your thoughts. You learn how to book your own table, ask strangers for photos, and talk to people you wouldn’t otherwise meet. It’s a huge confidence builder in the most unexpected ways.”
While the experience of going it alone has been mostly positive, there have been harder moments.
“Confidence isn’t something I was born with. I built it, trip by trip, flight by flight, and it’s still a work in progress. Originally I felt deeply uncomfortable about taking a flight on my own, staying in a hotel alone, travelling all alone in a foreign place where people speak a different language,” Tam said.
“It’s scary, but I’ve managed to do it all multiple times and it wasn’t half as scary as I thought it would be. For any woman who wants to try it, I’d recommend starting small. Take yourself on a solo date in your hometown first, then build up to a staycation, and eventually travel abroad.”
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Today, Tam’s social channels boast more than three million followers, and she has released a book, Buy Yourself The Damn Flowers.
“Whether you’re single, taken, or somewhere in between, every woman deserves to feel like she’s enough on her own and a solo trip is a beautiful reminder of that,” Tam said.
Tam is not the only one to enjoy a solo trip. Last year, the Mirror’s Jackie Annett headed to Turkey for her first lone holiday.
“Every year, three million Brits travel to Turkey with Babadag mountain in Oludeniz being one of the top paragliding destinations in the world. But did you know Turkey is also one of the most popular countries for people holidaying alone or enjoying a ‘Me Moon?’” she wrote.
“Less than 24 hours earlier, I’d arrived at the Mirona Deluxe Hotel not quite sure what to expect from my first solo holiday. Now that my daughter’s almost all grown up, I want to spend more time seeing the world and I don’t see why being single should stop me.”
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