A man who secured a large bonus at work has been branded ‘selfish’ by his fiancée after he refused to agree to the outlandish request she made about how he should use the money
Coming into money that you know will change your life can be overwhelming.
We all have things we’d love to buy if we had a large sum of money in our bank accounts. Maybe you desperately need a new car or want to get on the property ladder. Whatever it is, a lot of us have big expenses that we’re working toward, and a big chunk of money would definitely be handy.
However, one man has been left fuming after being lucky enough to be given a large bonus from his employers for a “fantastic year” – but his fiancée is trying to dictate how he spends his cash. The man said he had been “saving for years” to buy a house, so when he was gifted his $50,000 (£39,300) bonus, he intended to put it directly into his fund.
When he told his fiancée, she was initially “very supportive” of him, but a few days later, she changed her tune. She asked if he could “spare” half of his bonus to help her parents pay off their own mortgage instead of buying his own property – and called him “selfish” when he said he didn’t want to do that.
In a post on Reddit, he said: “She asked if I could ‘spare’ $25,000 of my bonus to help her parents pay off their mortgage. Apparently, her parents have been struggling financially, and she feels it’s ‘only fair’ since we’re going to be married and they’re going to be my family too.
“I said no. I’ve worked extremely hard for this money, and while I feel for her parents, I don’t think it’s my responsibility to bail them out – especially when I’ve never even been asked directly by them. Her response? She called me selfish and accused me of ‘not caring about her family’. She then brought up how her parents have ‘sacrificed so much’ for her, and it’s the least I could do.”
The man said his partner even went so far as to tell her parents about the money he received, so now they are trying to “guilt trip” him by saying he’s so “lucky” to have the bonus as others “don’t get that kind of opportunity.”
He has told his future wife that he wants to use the money to ensure their secure future in their own home, but his partner has insinuated she’ll dump him if he doesn’t help her parents. She reportedly said: “What future? You’re already showing you don’t care about the people who matter to me.”
In the comments, people told the man that he could spend his money however he wanted and urged him to think about whether he really wanted to marry his partner – especially if he’s expected to help bail her family out of situations.
One person said: “No, it’s your money, and it is not your responsibility to pay for their mortgage. If they can’t pay their own mortgage, maybe they should think about moving to a smaller house.”
Another added: “Good thing this happened before you got married. Sounds like you have some serious thinking to do. You have zero responsibility to fix her parents’ lack of long-term planning and judgment.”
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