A woman is convinced that her married high school best friend, who she has been secretly seeing on and off for 20 years, is her ‘soul mate’ and is clutching on to hopes he will leave his wife
Finding your perfect match is what many people long for and it can often take years to find ‘the one’. But one woman has spent over 15 years waiting for the “love of her life” to leave his wife so they can start their life together.
A beautician from London says she believes her high school best friend – whom she refers to as Matthew – is the man of her dreams – despite being married with kids. The duo tried dating but “it didn’t quite work”, so remained friends. In 2008 Matthew met someone new and got married, but four years in, the husband and his ex-lover rekindled their romance.
The duo have been in a rollercoaster relationship for two decades. The girlfriend on the side has been clutching onto Matthew’s promises and hopes that he will leave his marriage as she is “convinced he’s my soulmate”, she told the hosts of Australian podcast Everybody Has A Secret.
“I know that Matthew is my soul mate, we have always had an electric chemistry,” she said.
Podcast presenter Eilish Gilligan shared in a segment on their TikTok page @everybodyhasasecret, that the woman who wrote in believes Matthew is her “twin flame” – two people who are supposedly two halves of one whole.
The beautician explained: “My twin flame is married but wants to leave his wife for me. For 20 years I have been in an on and off again relationship with my married best friend Matthew. He married 15 years ago.
“In 2012 Matt and I tried to restart our relationship as lovers. Only on a romantic trip in Rome, we had an exclusive argument that ended up with me abandoning him in a foreign country and flying myself home.” Despite three years apart, the pair continued speaking over the phone, and in 2015 they began having sex again.
Confused, the woman added: “I wasn’t really clear on where it was all heading so I ended it.” However, fast forward to August 2023, the pair “gave it another crack” as confessing woman said “it’s different this time”.
She added: “We are still seeing each other to this day. We are madly, wildy in love with each other this time around. Our emotions have intensified and Matt has expressed his deep love for me and he even told me he will leave his wife at the end of the year so we can finally be together in the open.
“The people in my life know about me and Matt and my family believes Matt and his wife are separated and now live in different houses. His family however do not know. Matt has kept me such a secret. His children probably don’t even know I exist.”
But as she waits with baited breath, Matt continues to push back the date for the secret couple to be in a relationship. She explained: “He says his wife isn’t mentally ready for him to leave her and says he’s worried about what she might do if he leaves before she’s adequately prepared her head.
“He’s also concerned about his son who’s in school. I remind him that my parents split when I was young and it was one of the best things to ever happen to me. Now the earliest chance of us building a life together is at the end of 2024.”
She continued: “Part of me feels that he will continue to do this until I get tired of it again but the other part truly believes its different this time.
“Matt has told a lot of his friends about me and has had me meet some of his colleagues.” The video clip raked in hundreds of reactions.
One individual said: “Every time I hear anybody talking about their Twin Flame it’s red flags! They’re always super toxic relationships.” Another added: “He will never ever leave his wife. They both need to move on and never speak again.”
“Take it from someone who knows, he won’t leave; it’s too easy for him to stay,” a third pointed out.
One individual who has been the wife of a cheater said: “I’m the result of my husband finding his soul mate and leaving me and our daughter for her. I’m still broken after nine years but I respect how perfect they are together.”
Another added: “Yes, run! He’s never going to leave his wife. I can speak from experience, from the wife’s perspective.”
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