Imagine finding out your whole life has been a lie and the safe and secure family unit you believed you came from ripped apart other relationships. That’s the situation one woman has found herself in as she took to social media to share her woes
A woman has opened up about her horror after discovering she is the product of an illicit affair that her parents have been covering up for years. Taking to social media to share her upset, the 17-year-old admitted that she feels her entire life is a lie.
She said she has always known that she is the only child of her mum and dad, but she has three half-siblings from her parents’ previous relationships. She went on: “The story that I’ve always been told is that my parents both divorced their respective spouses, then met and married, then had me.
“My siblings always went between our house and their other parent’s house, until my mum’s first husband died when I was around six, and my brothers moved in with us full time. My older siblings never liked me, and never really made that a secret. At first, it was just them excluding me from anything and everything – birthday parties, hangouts, parent excursions, and things like that.
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“When their other kids were at their other parent’s houses, my parents always seemed to try their best to give me attention, and try to make me feel included but would leave me in the dust when their other kids would show up for their time at our house. But even that all went away when my brothers moved in.”
She explained that her two half-brothers moved in it felt like her dad went above and beyond to try and make them like him. She added: “All the energy he spent to bond with me went to them, and my mum quickly followed suit. But the time I was about 10, it felt like I was just completely forgotten.”
The teenager confessed that after her older brothers were old enough to be out of the house, she thought that her parents would make more effort but it didn’t happen and the realisation left her feeling very upset.
She continued: “My birthday was a few weeks ago, and no one did anything about it. No party, no cake, nothing. My 19-year-old brother was home for the weekend because he goes to a college close enough to go home when he wants. He actually wished me a happy belated birthday, he got me a gift, and he told me why he and his brother had always been so mean over the years.”
He confessed to his half-sister that her parents had been having a years-long affair, and when their mum got pregnant with her, it was apparently obvious that it wasn’t her first husband’s. He told her: “My mum and dad divorced their first spouses, destroyed both of their families, got married, and had me.”
Since the revelation the teenager said she’s been getting on better with her brother, so has been able to access therapy at university which has helped him to deal with his emotions and regret how he had previously treated her. However, she still hasn’t been able to speak to her parents about everything.
After sharing her heart-breaking story on Reddit people were quick to offer her sympathy and support. One person wrote: “I’m sorry that you grew up in this family dynamic. I would go low contact with your family because that’s not the way how you treat your child/sibling. It wasn’t your fault that both your parents cheated in their relationships. Maybe you could get along with your brother, at least he is working on himself but in the end, it’s up to you. Either way, I hope you find happiness and people who treat you with love.”
Another person agreed, adding: “I’m not going to mince words. Your parents’ behavior for the last two decades was selfish and evil. They knew their affair and subsequent marriage hurt everyone in their lives, but they didn’t give a damn. I’d recommend that, once you go to college, you make a clean break with all of them. Not low-contact, full no-contact. Find new people who will appreciate your good qualities; they’re out there.”
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