The bride-to-be is very happily engaged but has found herself feeling embarrassed during the wedding planning process, so much so she wishes her fiancé would elope instead
A bride-to-be is apprehensive about her upcoming wedding because, despite being over the moon to be engaged, she doesn’t have any friends who could be her bridesmaids.
Getting married can be a wonderful experience, and it’s a major milestone in many relationships. It sees two families joining together as the couple celebrates their love in front of their nearest and dearest.
But one bride is feeling “embarrassed” over her lack of close friends. She’s delighted to be engaged to her fiancé but she doesn’t have any girlfriends which means she “won’t have any bridesmaids”.
This reality has left her feeling “a bit like a loser” during the wedding planning process. On Reddit, she explained: “I’m that stereotypical girl whose best friend is their partner with no other friends.”
In contrast, her fiancé has lots of friends who he wants to be part of his wedding party and while the bride-to-be is “happy” for him, she feels “embarrassed” he has groomsmen while she doesn’t “even have one bridesmaid”.
She continued: “I feel like it’ll be super embarrassing to be standing up there with no one on my side and his will be full. I also feel like I’m not gonna have a typical wedding experience.
“I won’t have a bachelorette party, bridal shower or anything like that. Despite being happy about my engagement and future wedding, I’m really dreading the day. I’m quite anxious so I’m feeling really sad about it.”
The woman explained her lack of close friends comes from having grown up in a “really strict religion”. When she left, she was “shunned” by everyone and “left with no friends”. She said: “The religion frowns upon making friends outside of the religion so I didn’t have other friends when that happened. Ever since that’s happened, I’ve had a really tough time making friends despite actively trying.”
The situation has left her craving an elopement for the wedding, opting for something “really small” instead but her partner wants everyone to be at his wedding and is in favour of something “big”.
People shared their thoughts in the comments section. One person asked: “Have you had to sit down heart-to-heart with your soon-to-be? Have you really made him listen about how you’re feeling about the big wedding and how big the disparity is between you two?
“Weddings are about unity and they’re about the couple – if half of the couple is not enjoying the wedding, why have one? I think a very big conversation needs to be had very soon.”
Another suggested: “Could you go do the ceremony with just the two of you and then have a big party afterwards where nobody is expected to have any kind of specific roles? Just one big event where nobody is elevated to a particular position… it would be a lot less “his” and “her” sides”.
Many suggested she get close to her fiancé’s friends’ girlfriends. One person added: “Honestly it might be a great moment to get closer with the women in his life? My current bestie is exactly like you. She didn’t really have her own close friends, but the women in her husband’s life all rallied around her for wedding stuff. We all bonded a ton in the process and now we’re really close!”