Coming into contact with a long lost relative is meant to be a happy moment, but this woman’s joy has been dampened by her jealous husband
Finding a long-lost relative should be a moment full of joy and excitement, but one woman has been robbed of that precious reunion thanks to her husband’s jealousy.
The wife just made contact with her brother, who was adopted as a child 30 years ago, and has been sharing the special reconnection with her other five siblings. But her husband hasn’t taken the discovery very well which has dampened her spirits. He’s even gone as far as telling her to “not bother” with her newly-found sibling, which has left her feeling really hurt and confused.
Taking to Mumsnet to share her upset, the anonymous woman explained: “This brother who has found us was adopted out and we haven’t seen or heard from him in all those years…but my husband has been acting stroppy and making comments about talking to them too much, and not bothering with him and that I’m ignoring him over ‘some bloke’.”
She gave examples of her husband’s strange behaviour, which included him getting annoyed when she missed his call because she was talking to her brother. “[He’s] just being really funny with me. [I] had mentioned meeting at some point but husband is saying no not for a long time and I’ve tried reassuring him nothing changes between me and him but for gods sake he is my brother who I have missed dearly and I feel like my husband has ruined what is supposed to be a happy time.”
She said he isn’t being “supportive” and claimed he went as far as to accuse her of “using” him, taunting her by saying that she “doesn’t need him anymore” now she’s got her brother. In a bid to try and relieve the tension, she’s tried to get her husband more involved but he’s “still stroppy”.
The post continued: “I have to text my brother in secret and pretend I haven’t heard off him just to avoid his moodiness. Is this jealousy or possessiveness or what? I know I don’t know my brother anymore and I’m not rushing into anything but this can’t be right surely? If it was him I’d be so happy for him and would support him fully.”
The wife asked if she was being unreasonable and further claimed that her husband does this “everytime a family member has found me.” People were quick to jump into the comments, with many agreeing her husband was in the wrong. One person wrote: “He is being completely ridiculous. He should be happy for you. How dare he say you won’t be meeting him for a long time. I’d be having a chat and telling him he is ruining what should be a happy occasion for you because he is jealous.”
A second penned: “Your husband is being controlling, he’s jealous of your BROTHER.. it’s not like your going to run off into the sunset with him. I’d tell him to buck his ideas up before you get a divorce.”
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