Her fiancé’s ex-girlfriend, Katy, has stayed in touch with the family since she’s known them all since she was a teenager and now, she wants to perform a speech at the happy couple’s wedding
A woman is perturbed after her fiancé’s ex-girlfriend has asked to deliver a speech at their upcoming wedding – and the groom’s family are all on her side.
Naturally, the bride-to-be refused her partner’s ex’s request, but she is still keen to deliver one, while her future mother-in-law has accused the woman of being “oversensitive” for not wanting the ex to speak at the big day.
On Reddit’s popular Am I The A**hole (AITA) forum, she explained: “My fiancé was dating ‘Katy’ for years then they broke it off. She still comes around since she’s close to his family. By how much time they had spent together, Katy seems to know my fiancé really well.
“That didn’t bother me at first, but it became an issue when she asked that I let her give a speech at the wedding since she knows him well, and wanted to tell a ‘few funny’ stories about him.”
The woman said this request made her feel “extremely uncomfortable” so she apologised and told Katy she didn’t think it was “appropriate” for her to deliver a speech. Then, her future mother-in-law “got involved and started lecturing” her, telling her she needed to “stop being negative”.
The woman continued: “[She] claimed I was making this ‘about me’ (but it’s my wedding!) My fiancé is choosing to stay out of it, but the pressure is on me now. I’m being called ‘oversensitive’ and [told I need] to ‘loosen up’ as this could be a good opportunity to add more laughter and joy to the event, but to be completely honest on here, I don’t want his ex to take any part in our wedding, even if she’s a friend of the family and they’ve known her since she was a teenager.”
Fellow Reddit users shared their thoughts. One person said: “NTA everyone here is varying degrees of w***er. Katy should grow a brain, no it’s not appropriate for her to speak at your wedding. Mother-in-law needs to butt out! Husband-to-be needs to grow a damn spine and support you.
“I’d be furious with them right now if I were you. Why are they staying out of it? Can they not see that if you’re uncomfortable with their ex-partner speaking at your wedding then it’s just not going to happen?”
Another commented: “Exactly, this shouldn’t even be up for debate or discussion in the end its YOUR wedding and you get to make the final decision, NTA”
A third said: “It’s bizarre that anyone would think it’s appropriate for an ex to give a speech at a wedding. This is a celebration of her love and future together, not a chance for his ex to relive old memories. She definitely should stand her ground, her feelings are valid and this is her wedding, not a family reunion for his ex.”
And another added: “Not only is that bizarre, but is anyone else thinking it’s bizarre that the EX is invited to the wedding at all?!?! Like IDC [I don’t care] how close my family members might be to an ex of mine, there is no way they’re being invited to my wedding! They are an ex for a reason!”