A woman has been left horrified after she found out her husband went behind her back to donate his sperm – after she explicitly told him she wasn’t okay with it
What you do with your body is entirely up to you, but some things do require a discussion with your partner.
We all have agency over our bodies and the freedom to decide what we want to do with them. If you want to get piercings or tattoos, then that’s your decision, no matter what anyone else thinks. However, there are some things that you should discuss with your significant other if you have one.
One of the bodily changes that should be discussed with your partner before you go through with them are things that affect your reproductive system, such as deciding to have a vasectomy or even going on long-lasting forms of birth control, as discussions may need to be had surrounding your views on starting a family or having more children.
This is why one woman was left fuming when she discovered her husband had gone behind her back to donate his sperm after she had explicitly told him she wasn’t okay with the idea. While it is his body, she believes her feelings should have been taken into account, and she’s livid now that she knows she was ignored.
In a post on Reddit, the woman claimed her husband had actually donated sperm once before when they were approached by two of their friends who were having difficulty conceiving. The woman and her husband both signed a donor agreement to cover that specific pregnancy, and the couple were able to welcome healthy twins.
Since then, the woman and her husband had a “falling out” with the couple after they realised they were “toxic” and treated the woman “horribly”. Two years ago, they reached out to ask her husband to donate more sperm to give their twins a sibling, and the woman said she wouldn’t be happy with it – but recently found out her husband did it anyway.
She wrote: “I spoke to my husband, and we agreed, firmly, that it was not a good idea. This morning I grabbed my husband’s phone. I needed to get some medicine, so I just needed to get a little money for that. So I did and sent it to my account. While I was doing this, I saw that he had received money from them.
“I looked at his messages to see if he had been in contact with them. He had. They contacted him again, behind my back and offered money. They mentioned to my husband that I would pose a problem to this, and he specifically told them that my opinion was not valid.”
The woman said she confronted her husband about his decision and was told that he doesn’t need her “permission to make money”. She is now seething with her husband and is unsure what to do next, as she feels the trust between them has been broken.
Commenters on the post largely backed the woman. They agreed that the issue wasn’t with the sperm donation but was the fact that her husband had betrayed her and sneaked around behind her back.
One person said: “This isn’t just about sperm; it’s about betrayal, disrespect, and dismissing your feelings in a way that undermines your trust and partnership.” Another added: “I would divorce my husband if he did this. He intentionally went behind your back AFTER he agreed it wasn’t a good idea so he could make money?!? He let them badmouth you and STILL went through with it!”
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