A mum has revealed she’s had enough of how her nanny rudely speaks to her two young boys – but doesn’t know how to approach it with her as she’s only 18 years old
A mum has got to breaking point after hearing how her children’s nanny speaks to them – and slammed her for being “rude”.
Having childcare is something any parent is grateful for, and leaving your children with someone you can trust can make life so much easier, so you’d hope they would be nice to your kids – surely?
One mum was stunned when she heard how her nanny spoke to her young children and claimed she never has any manners either, but it seems as if her children really like her. Wondering how she could bring it up – she sought the advice of other mums as her nanny is only 18.
“Our nanny is only 18 and lives locally and we know her family. She has been great since she started working with us, we have two unruly boys and she has kept them in check and got them into a good routine,” the mum wrote in an anonymous post on Mumsnet.
She added that she and her husband have always supported her being strict, as she admitted “they can be challenging”, but noticed she doesn’t have the kindest way of speaking to them. She then further detailed: “However recently I have noticed that she is actually quite rude to them. My husband, who is usually much less sensitive to this type of thing, has noticed too.”
She then explained: “As an example I heard her telling one of them to ‘move’ today. Not ‘excuse me’ or ‘please could you move out of the way’. He was taking his shoes off in the hallway,” and said there are a few other similar things too. However, the mum noted that her sons have never said anything and said they like her – despite admitting she could be “a bit bossy”.
“I just find it very abrasive after they had a long day at school. My husband wants to bring this up with the nanny,” the mum added while asking how she could bring it up “sensitively” without making things worse. She also claimed she’s worried she’s overthinking or being unreasonable as she wondered if this was right and should be kept in check if they’re misbehaving.
However other mums flocked to the comments to share their thoughts, as one mum commented: “There’s no need to be rude to a child. Just adding please costs nothing but means a lot,” and advised the mum to be “diplomatic” about her approach in bringing it up.
“I didn’t even realise you could be a qualified nanny at 18. You’ve effectively hired a kid to be a nanny to your children, so yeah I’d tell her not to be rude! She is their biggest influence and there’s no way I’d have let anyone tell my toddler to ‘move’ in their own home like that. But honestly at 18 and speaking to your children like that – she’s clearly just not ready for the job. Hopefully, she’s more of a babysitter than a nanny,” another mum penned.
“I’d say something like we are trying to help the children grow up to speak respectfully to others and we’ve noticed some phrases that we need you to change…instead of ‘move’ please say ‘excuse me’…etc. We expect the boys to speak politely to you and you to them also,” a third suggested.”
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