A woman is heartbroken after uncovering a secret her husband has been hiding from her since they began dating seven years ago – and it’s completely changed their relationship
Finding out something your partner has been keeping hidden from you can be devastating. Relationships are built on trust, and if they’ve been hiding key parts of their life from you for years, it can leave you feeling as though you don’t really know them at all.
One woman has found herself in this situation, as she recently discovered that her husband of four years has been keeping a colossal secret from her ever since they began dating seven years ago. While some partners might be able to excuse the occasional white lie, this “earth-shattering” discovery has changed the course of their relationship forever.
In a post on Reddit, the woman explained she has been married to her husband for four years and they have two sons together. She described her spouse as “a good man” and claimed he has always been “very honest” about his life, including the events of his past before he began dating his now-wife.
However, she recently received a Facebook message from a woman who changed everything.
The other woman claimed that her husband is the father of her 15-year-old daughter, and that he hasn’t been involved in the teenager’s life since she was around two-years-old.
This would mean he had this child long before he ever met his current wife, but she is absolutely devastated about the news – as her husband has never even mentioned it to her.
She said: “A week ago today, a woman messaged me on Facebook saying that my husband is the father of her daughter (15-year-old girl) and that he hasn’t been involved in her life since she was 2. HE HAS NEVER MENTIONED THIS GIRL TO ME.
“Obviously, I was shocked and asked her to prove this, and she sent me a birth certificate and pictures of them together when they were younger with their daughter. I asked why she was just now telling me this, and she said it was because her daughter wanted to make contact with her father.”
The woman immediately confronted her husband about it, and was furious when he first tried to deny it. But when she showed him the birth certificate proof, he backtracked and finally told her the truth – after seven years of lying to her face.
She added: “I called my husband out on this, and at first he tried to deny it until I sent the picture of the birth certificate with his name on it. He told me that they broke up when they were in their early 20s, and she didn’t let him see his daughter because she was with another man.
“He decided to move on with life and thought it was a good idea to pretend he wasn’t a father. He told his parents to drop it and act as if she weren’t a part of their lives.”
The mum-of-two concluded her post by saying she feels “betrayed, lied to, and heartbroken” over the bombshell, as not only has her husband been lying to her, but his entire family has, too.
She is now filing for divorce as her trust in her husband is completely broken. And commenters have commended her for the move, as many described her husband’s actions as “irredeemable”.
One person said: “Obviously irredeemable to start an entire life with someone and omit that information. But I’m especially struck by the fact that he DENIED it until you provided photo evidence. That’s a disturbing lack of integrity.”
Another added: “That is an inexcusable omission by your husband.”
A third also wrote: “This is a major red flag. If he would do that to one child, he certainly would do it to others. You are right to consider divorce.”