A bride has expressed her anger after a family friend handed in a ‘ridiculous’ RSVP card for her wedding which she believed was ‘disrespectful’ – but others disagree
Deciding who to invite to your wedding isn’t always an easy task.
If you’ve got a small wedding venue that doesn’t allow for a limitless guest list, or even if there are just certain people you’d rather not invite to your big day but don’t quite know how to break it to them, planning who gets to RSVP to your wedding can be a stressful task.
One bride has been left fuming at one of her family friends for her “disrespectful” behaviour toward her RSVP, however, because the woman chose to add an extra guest without asking first. The bride had allocated four seats to the woman and her family, but when she sent the RSVP card back, the woman had added “and baby” in pink pen – suggesting she planned on bringing her baby to the wedding without permission.
The bride posted a picture of the RSVP card on Facebook, according to the Daily Mail, which included the text: “We have reserved __ seat(s) in your honour.” The bride had written “4” in the space for the woman’s invite, but she had added “+ baby” in a cheeky move to bag an extra seat.
In her post, the bride claimed: “Anyone else deal with ridiculous RSVPs? I guess I should have been more clear but for a back story, this is a family friend on my fiancé’s side. She has kids from three different men – including her current husband.
“I asked her how many she thinks are coming and she told me four – including her one-year-old baby. She told me just her, one daughter (from her previous relationship), her current husband and the daughter they have together. So I gave her four.”
However, the guest went against what she had originally told the bride and chose to invite her husband’s child from a previous relationship, whom the bride had never met. This meant her four seats were all taken, and she was adding her baby as an extra – as she claimed the little one technically wouldn’t take up a seat.
The bride added: “She never told me that the child was coming with them. I’m just annoyed. I know most venues and places don’t consider under two a ‘seat’ or counted in the headcount but still the thought of it. Just annoyed. Nothing I can do now.”
Commenters on the Facebook post were split, however, as some people told the mum she should contact the guest to let them know exactly who was invited. But others believed the bride was wrong for excluding some members of the family, especially when the wedding isn’t child-free.
One person said: “Overall I’d still have a conversation with your fiancé and talk with him. It’s disrespectful and rude to do that.” But someone else disagreed, writing: “Yikes, if you invite the family then you invite the whole family. If you didn’t want kids there, you should have said so.”
Another also explained: “When the bride originally called, it was an open invitation. So the guest went off the spirit of that. Taking it back now would be rude, especially given the reasoning! That child is a part of the family just as much as the other kids. I’m assuming she addressed the envelope to the family and if so, the entire family is invited. I’d find it weird to be like, ‘All your kids except that one are invited, because how dare you have a blended family.’ “
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