WARNING: DISCUSSION OF STILLBIRTH. A bride-to-be’s disgusting exchange with a former friend has been shared telling her not to come to her wedding because she didn’t want the recent trauma of her stillbirth to overshadow her big day
Prepare to be shocked by the depths of human insensitivity after an exchange between two former friends was revealed online. The shocking conversation was originally shared in 2021 and has now resurfaced on Reddit, however, it remains just as awful the second time around.
Losing a child is an unimaginably painful experience, and during such a harrowing time, the support of loved ones is crucial. Sadly, it can also be a moment that reveals the true colours of those around you. In a display of callousness, a bride-to-be has been labelled a “human trash bag” and a “bridezilla”, by asking her friend, who had just suffered a stillbirth, to skip the wedding. Admitting she feared her friend’s grief might overshadow her “special day”.
The text exchange was shared on Facebook where people tried to tell the bride that she was grossly out of line but she didn’t understand the problem. In another twist, a further update states that the wedding was eventually called off after the groom-to-be decided he could no longer be with someone so devoid of compassion, influenced heavily by her cruel messages to her grieving friend.
In the initial exchange, the bride starts by asking her grieving friend if she will still be attending her wedding. She wrote: “I was thinking maybe you shouldn’t. I don’t mean to be harsh but I thought you’d be over what happened by now.
“You cried today just ’cause some lady had a baby, it’s just a bit dramatic and lots of people don’t know yet ’cause apparently, you aren’t ready to tell people.” She goes on: “I think if you don’t tell people, you shouldn’t come, like I’m trying to be as nice about this as I can but everyone will be asking why you aren’t pregnant and I don’t want them distracted from making me feel special.”
Understandably, the – now very much former – friend couldn’t believe the insensitive messages, going on to call the bride “trash”. “So let me get this straight. You don’t want me at your wedding because the fact my baby f***ing died might ruin YOUR day,” she responded.
But the bridezilla was having none of it: “You’re being really selfish it’s been two months how much time do you really need? It’s not like you knew her.”
The exchange quickly blew up online with plenty of people equally outraged about the bride’s selfishness. “Wow! What the f*** is wrong with people? She needs to send this to the groom, so he can see how his future wife is acting,” one person wrote in disbelief. Another commented: “When she said, ‘It’s not like you knew her,’ my jaw DROPPED. This is the most gut-wrenching thing to read.”
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Alleged later posts shared on Imgur suggest the bride has since been ditched for her shocking outburst, with the former friend stating she “got what she deserved”. The woman also revealed follow-up Facebook remarks purportedly from the bride still blaming the mortified mother for ruining everything, even asserting with a stern “bet most people agree”.
However, it was evident that the majority certainly did not side with her. “You are tragic,” someone else chastised. Sharing the same sentiment, another added: “Wow you’re an actual oxygen thief! I hope everyone sh*** on your parade for eternity.”
If you have been affected by this story, advice and support can be found at Sands (stillbirth and neonatal death charity). You can call them on 0808 164 3332 or email [email protected].
If you are pregnant or a new mother and you are in crisis, the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline provides free, confidential support 24/7 in English and Spanish. Call or text the hotline at 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262).
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