A man has shared his torment after falling in love with his wedding planner and destroying his relationship. The bombshell revelation is just the tip of the ice-berg in his wild love life
Getting married is the ultimate commitment – but one bloke was too preoccupied with his wedding planner to stay truthful to his wife-to-be.
The groom was busy planning every last detail of his wedding when he suddenly fell for the expert he hired, and the pair started a secret affair behind his long-term partner’s back.
His fiancée soon discovered what he was up to and all hell broke loose. Her shock was compounded by the fact that their wedding planner was a man. The torn groom says he realised he wasn’t “being true to himself” when he started to fall in love with another man. He knew from the moment he met him, that he shouldn’t be marrying his fiancée.
The bride was left “blindsided” by her discovery, which came after she got more an more suspicious of what he was up to. While the groom tried to insist that he “loved” his girlfriend, he wanted to explore his romantic feelings for another man and started to secretly spend time with the designer.
The couple then called off the wedding, much to the devastation of the bride-to-be. She thought they had their “whole lives planned out, but meeting the designer was just the start of the messy situation the groom found himself in.
He wrote an anonymous submission to Ask Lisi, an advice column written by The Toronto Star’s Lisi Tesher, for help and revealed his life got “complicated”. After the secret was exposed, he dated the planner for a while, but called it quits and carried on his quest for Mr. Right, but didn’t manage to find him.
Then last year, he met a widowed woman with two children, who he said “stole [his] heart”, but it’s now very uncomfortable for him when he bumps into his ex-fiancée. “In the past two months, I’ve bumped into my ex three times and each time is more awkward than the last. Why can’t I just be civil and friendly? Why do I freeze? I need help.”
In response, Lisi said “life is a journey” and it’s not all about labels or sexuality – and it’s important to live a good life and “be true to yourself”, but from his ex’s viewpoint she said: “I imagine she feels you were living a lie and then cheated on her with a man. I understand how that would be very upsetting to her.”
But to see him years later with another woman and children is “probably very confusing for her” and could still be painful. “I suggest you find your inner strength and say hello. Cut through the small talk and say, ‘I know this is probably confusing for you and I’d love the chance to tell you my story,” she advised.
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