One mum has revealed that despite her deciding on her baby daughter’s name and ‘loving it’ during her pregnancy, she’s now changed her mind now that her baby girl is here
A lot of parents spend months trying to decide on the perfect name for their baby.
However, one mum has revealed that despite her deciding on her baby daughter’s name and ‘loving it’ during her pregnancy, she’s now changed her mind now that her baby girl is here.
The mum took to Reddit to get some advice on the situation, revealing she wants to change the name after 8 weeks of her daughter being here – but feels “awful” and “embarrassed”.
She wrote: “I had my baby girl 8 weeks ago. We named her Judith Mae (Judy) for short. I’ve loved this name all throughout my pregnancy but it just isn’t a good fit for her.
“We are considering changing her name to Valorie Jane, my question is should I leave her name as is or go through the trouble of changing it?”
The mum added: I feel awful for feeling this way and will feel a little embarrassed if we do legally change it, but I also want to Love my child’s name and be proud to share it when someone asks what her name is… help.”
Many people were baffled by the decision, as one person wrote: “Curious how you can tell the name doesn’t fit in eight weeks.”
Meanwhile, others encouraged the mum to give it a bit more time and try and embrace the original name.
One person said: “Judith is a beautiful name and there are many vintage/old fashioned names that are becoming popular again…. I know of babies named Hazel, Esme, Esther, Cora, Mabel, Adelaide and Polly! I think you should keep it.”
While another echoed: “I agree! Have met a bunch of little Elenor’s, Amelia’s, and Charlottes. Judith has the same classic vibe and very much fits in with current name styles, without being too trendy. Judy is also a very cute nickname.
“Keep in mind the perspective of names is always changing. I’ve worked with kids and have heard them say names like Justin or Ashley is an “old person name”, but don’t bat an eye at a 5-year-old named Henry or Evelyn.”
A third added: “When I had my first daughter, we gave her a ‘big’ name. It didn’t fit her right away. It felt too grown-up for a tiny baby. I referred to her as ‘the baby’ for a while, but we loved the name (pre and during pregnancy). We got used to the name for a baby and she grew into it. It now fits her beautifully. I don’t know if this applies to your situation, but I thought it useful to share my experience.”
Meanwhile, others told her to change the name if she didn’t like it, with one person writing: “My mother has always said ‘You can spend your whole pregnancy loving a name… and then you get eyes on that critter and the name just doesn’t fit.’
“My older sister was supposed to be Lindsey, til mum saw her and just knew it wasn’t right. It took them a few days, but they nailed down the perfect name. It’s so funny to me because it’s true – my sister is NOT a Lindsey. I like the name Lindsey too, just not on my sister – when you know you just know!”
