Paul C Brunson, a dating expert on both Married at first Sight UK and Celebs Go Dating, has shared his tips on how to find love this Valentine’s Day – so get ready for romance
With Valentine’s Day fast approaching, many people having love on their mind.
And if you’re still looking for your perfect other half, who better to share their wisdom than dating expert Paul C Brunson.
The 50-year-old dating guru – who often sharing romance tips on his @paulcbrunson Instagram page – is an expert on both Married at First Sight UK and Celebs Go Dating, so he has a lot of experience on romance.
He’s also Tinder’s go-to expert, so knows all things dating apps too.
Check out his top tips to find love and bag that all-important date for Valentine’s Day.
What advice would you give to people who are looking for love?
When dating, the relationship you have with yourself is just as important as the one you build with someone else. Knowing and loving who you are and what you want is key to attracting the right partner.
Tinder’s research shows that young singles are prioritising self-care more than ever – 80% of 18-25-year-olds say it’s their top priority when dating, and 79% want a partner who values it too. When you’re your best self, the love you want and deserve will follow.
Dating is meant to be fun and exciting, so remember that every new connection offers an opportunity for self-discovery, a chance to embrace adventure, and maybe even find love.
Do you think dating apps are a good way for people to meet these days?
Absolutely. In fact, 53% of under 30’s are using dating apps. They have transformed how we meet, making it easier than ever to connect with people you might never have crossed paths with otherwise.
The key is to use them with intention, authenticity and kindness so they become a powerful tool for finding genuine connections and love, whether it’s for a night or forever.
What kind of opener would you suggest for people to use on dating apps?
Today’s 18-25 year olds, who now make up more than 50% of Tinder’s membership base, are looking for authenticity. So the best openers are those that show genuine interest and spark a conversation.
A personalised message is always a great start. Reference something from their profile, like a shared interest, a travel destination, or even a favourite food. For example, if they mention loving sushi, you could say, ‘What’s your go to sushi roll? I need some recommendations!’
Humour also works wonders. A light, playful opener can break the ice and set a positive tone. Your opener doesn’t have to be perfect, it just needs to show that you’re interested and ready to engage. 64% of young singles are comfortable with cringey/awkward situations if it’s in service of being genuine, so don’t stress about nailing the ideal first line, just focus on being yourself.
What dating etiquette should people make sure they follow?
Good dating etiquette is all about respect and consideration. Tinder’s Year in Swipe report showed that users in the UK consider communication, emotional intelligence, and authenticity as the top dating rules—and I couldn’t agree more. Being upfront and honest is essential. If you’re interested, let them know and if you’re not, communicate that politely rather than ghosting.
Timely replies are also important; no one likes waiting endlessly for a response. Emotional intelligence plays a big role here, so consider how your actions, like delayed replies or lack of clarity, might make the other person feel. Remember, be yourself, treat others with kindness, and approach dating with the same respect you’d hope to receive.
Where would you suggest for a first date?
First dates are all about creating a comfortable space where you can genuinely connect. Tinder data shows that the top date activities are rave nights, pub quizzes, and bowling—proving there’s really something for everyone. The key is choosing an activity that either reflects your personality or is a shared interest, and always pick a familiar, public location where you both feel at ease.
