A woman has opened up about her sex addiction, admitting that she has to masturbate at work in order to concentrate and has ‘cheated on every relationship’
Hypersexual disorder or compulsive sexual behaviour is a psychological condition used to describe people who have an ‘excessive’ or ‘out of control’ amount of sexual behaviour and feel distressed as a result.
It is completely different from persistent genital arousal syndrome (PGAS), which has very little to do with sex, and absolutely nothing to do with pleasure. The condition, largely suffered by women, is characterised by an implacable feeling of genital congestion and pelvic pain.
Like any addiction, whether it be drinking, drugs, or gambling, it can cause devastating repercussions in a person’s life if they are unable to control their urge. One woman has bravely opened up about how she copes with her sex addiction and how it affects her relationships, admitting that she has “cheated on every relationship” and “shamed and was abusive toward guys when they couldn’t keep up”.
Speaking on social media, the 25-year-old wrote: “Hey, a little over a year ago I began therapy and was diagnosed as a nymphomaniac. It’s been a few days past the six months mark of staying between the boundaries I’ve set up for myself, with great help from my therapist, and I decided to post this AMA [ask me anything] both to allow myself to reflect on my situation and journey thus far and to bring awareness to this situation.”
The fascinating post was quickly inundated with questions, which the woman candidly answered. Discussing how many times she needs to masturbate each day, she wrote: “For the most part it was at least 4-5 times a day, at times it was more. I would do it as soon as I woke up, sometimes I’d start in my sleep even, and would often end up being late for work because I just kept going. Sometimes I’d do it while driving to work and at work, as soon as I get home.”
She continued: “At workplaces where I had my own desk and was alone I’d do it under the desk, there would be times I’d do it over my clothes even if I wasn’t alone but wasn’t in anyone’s direct line of sight, or I’d go to the bathroom.”
Confessing that there isn’t “an hour that goes by” that she doesn’t think about sex, the 25-year-old explained that she doesn’t know when her addiction began. She went on: “It’s hard to pinpoint an exact moment in which I realized something is off. I discovered and explored my sexuality at a young age and always just brushed it off with ‘I’m just sexually liberated’ and other similar excuses.”
“I think I was around 22 or 23 when I started realizing something was off but I was in denial about it, joked off about being ‘such a nympho’ with friends and such. I began therapy for a completely different reason, my mental health was going downhill after a very difficult year in which I lost my mom and my best friend in less than 6 months and it has also caused my sex addiction to worsen – as well as alcohol and weed abuse. I never saw sex as an addiction until my therapist pointed it out, then it was extremely obvious.”
In terms of recovery, the woman explained how she’s making far healthier decisions now that she’s in therapy. She wrote: “The boundaries include setting up a defined time for masturbation and only doing so at home. Only have sex after I’ve taken a period to contemplate its possible effects on my life, ideally only within a romantic relationship.”
“I’ve quit porn completely, realizing what causes my sexual urges as they often are caused due to other mental issues I’m going through and instead rewarding it by acting on said urges, to focus on the cause (anxiety, depression, insecurities, stress, etc).”
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She finished: “Sex addiction or porn addiction are just as bad as alcoholism and drug abuse, sadly people are less likely to seek help because it’s harder to spot when it becomes a problem and it’s more taboo socially.”
“The only way to get better, I believe, is through therapy. I hope this will help to bring awareness to the situation and encourage people to seek help.”
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