A woman has been left devastated after her boyfriend dropped a bombshell on her about his secret double life – and she’s not sure if she can forgive him for lying to her
You think you know your partner until they drop a life-altering bombshell on you.
When you get into a relationship with someone, you expect them to be honest about who they are and what sort of life they led before they met you. In the early days of a romance, you might talk to your partner about previous relationships you’ve had and how they ended, as well as letting them know about your family and the other people in your life.
But one woman has said her relatively new romance is already on the rocks because her boyfriend has confessed to her that he’s been living a secret double life behind her back – and she doesn’t know if she can ever trust him again.
In a post on Reddit, the woman said she’s been dating a man for the past two months, and believed she knew everything there was to know about his life. However, while they were both “kind of drunk” on New Year’s Eve, the man decided to drop a huge bombshell on her – he has two children.
The woman found this particularly baffling because they’d been seeing each other over the Christmas period and he hadn’t mentioned his kids once, despite it being likely that he had to buy presents for them and potentially visit them for the holidays.
Alarm bells also rang for the woman when she found out both children have different mothers and were born just four months apart, meaning her boyfriend got two women pregnant within a relatively short space of time. She is now suspicious that he could have cheated on one woman with the other, which has made her doubt his loyalty in their relationship.
She said: “I told him I would go back to my own apartment because I needed to think about it all. He didn’t want me to leave on my own and take the subway, so we both went back to his place to sleep, and I slept in the spare room. I left early, around 5am, and now he’s blowing up my phone asking me what’s wrong and what happened, that this was the reason he didn’t want to tell me he had kids because I wouldn’t like him anymore.”
The woman went on to say she was baffled that her boyfriend could have kept his family secret from her. She said she’s even ready to end the relationship because of his lies, as she now can’t be sure if he’s keeping anything else from her.
Commenters on the post encouraged her to dump her partner, with some pointing out the short age gap between his children should be a red flag. Others said that although their romance has only lasted two months, that’s a long time to not tell someone that you have kids.
One person wrote: “If he’s hiding this big of a thing from the start, who knows what else he’s been lying about? Two baby mums, kids super close in age? That’s a major red flag. Trust issues would be a serious concern moving forward. You’re not overreacting at all.”
Another added: “I think two months is a long time to keep that away from you. Things like that should be coming out in the first or second date.” A third shared: “He knows what’s wrong. It’s not like he hid it by accident. He knows what he did.”
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