A woman who claimed she’s tired of men mistaking her friendliness for flirting has shared her unique way to try and deter men from giving her unwanted attention
A woman has revealed she’s had to take extreme measures in order for men to stop flirting with her.
Being complimented can boost anyone’s self-esteem, but one woman has had enough and claimed she gets so many compliments, as well as being chatted up that she’s had to pretend she’s engaged to try and deter men away.
She claimed that whenever she is trying to be friendly to her colleagues at work, it’s always taken the wrong way, so had no choice but to buy a fake engagement ring, despite being single as she’s “tired” of her friendliness being mistaken as flirty.
The extreme decision to buy a ring was her last straw and took to Reddit to anonymously share her situation. She said: “I started working a retail job three months ago. I say good morning and good afternoon to every co-worker I see. Three of those co-workers took that as flirting. I had to tell two of them to back off.”
After this, she then said it happened with a fourth co-worker, who has tried to pursue something with her. She further detailed: “A fourth co-worker who seemingly started a different shift because I had not seen him before last week, is now starting to ask questions to get to know me, he even complimented my hair (it’s blue/purple).
“I am tired of men thinking my general kindness is flirting. It’s not, I say hello to anyone and everyone. It’s just a thing that I do and I believe everyone should do that, it makes working with each other easier.”
So to try and stop this from happening, she decided to purchase a ring from an online website – and hoped that it would put off any potential men from flirting with her. She said: “So this evening, I bought myself a cute salt and pepper diamond wedding ring for only $60 (£48) from Etsy. I had been eyeing salt and pepper diamond rings some months before, and now I’ll have one! I am hoping, praying, that the ring will stave off anyone thinking I’m flirting.
“I should get my ring in a couple of days, it’s coming from the same state I’m in. Once I get it I’ll have to mention my “husband” to this guy,” the post concluded.
Fellow Redditors were quick to chime in with their thoughts, as one person wrote: “You’re going to find that you get hit on just as much, but by more creepy married guys who think you’ll keep it quiet cos you’ve both got something to lose,” and a second added: “Several people I know do this. One of my friends even worked at a place that had a ‘community ring’ they left at the main desk if a staff member felt the need for it.”
A third commented: “Sadly, this is the reason why I refrain from being too friendly with / saying good morning or afternoon to male co-workers. When I see them, I either ignore them while putting up my neutral face, nod (like what guys do to other guys) with a neutral face, or I only say ‘hey’ to get their attention in order to discuss professional matters.”
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