A woman was perplexed when her husband suddenly decided that he didn’t like their little girls’ name, despite the fact that she’d been called that for a month and a half
It’s universally recognised that once you’ve named your little one, there’s no going back.
However, one woman’s husband was trying to convince his wife to change their daughter’s name once she was six weeks old.
The mum explained that he’d “suddenly” completely changed his mind about her name and had slated it for “being too popular,” and he was worried that there would be five girls in her class with the same name.
The woman said she was going to refer to the name as ‘Amelia’ throughout the post, and her husband also didn’t like the nickname he assumed she’d be given. But she was blindsided by it, as it had taken him over a month to come to this conclusion.
Taking to Mumsnet, she wanted to get other people’s opinions on the situation. She shared that there had been “months of back and forth” when it came to choosing a name, so she was relieved when they finally agreed on Amelia.
“He said he liked Amelia when I was in labour,” she shared, but now he was trying to get her to rename their baby Ottilie, but she said she thought it was “too try hard”.
She wrote: “I’ve said it’s ridiculous to change her name now, as she’s already had her birth registered, and we’ve told everyone what her name is. My mum is already using personalised bibs with her name on them, for f**ks sake.
“My husband says it’s ‘not too late’ and that I’m being stubborn and unreasonable not to consider it. Am I being unreasonable to think he should have brought this up before she was born, and we should just leave it as Amelia now?”
The new mum explained that she felt her daughter’s name suited her, “and the thought of changing it now feels really weird and wrong.”
In the comments, one Mumsnet user said that they didn’t think that his reasoning for changing her name was “reasonable”. They wrote: “I don’t think his reason is good enough. He doesn’t dislike the name…he just thinks there may be others with the same name in her class (my kid’s primary school is a 3-form entry, and there are no Amelias in either of my children’s year groups, so I don’t think it’s a given). And what’s the issue? It won’t affect friendships or work or anything, people will just refer to her by a nickname or by first name last name.
“If there was a different reason, then maybe, but he could have researched how popular it was before she was born. I know what he means about the nickname, and if he doesn’t like Milly, then can you agree you’ll call her Amie or Lia or something for short so that she doesn’t get known as Milly?”
Another penned: “It’s a tough one as you both need to, at least like, the name. He did, and you agreed, so it’s not fair on you if you like the name and she grew into it in your head, but equally, your husband is entitled to change his mind. No one is right or wrong here. If you don’t like his suggestion, you continue to call her that; maybe he can refer to her with a nickname.
“Or agree to discuss it in a month’s time to give you all time to settle and think. The newborn stage is always difficult, I couldn’t make a decision to save my life, let alone an important one like a name.”
Others weren’t impressed with his behaviour and didn’t have any sympathy, writing: “It’s bl**dy ridiculous; it’s like he thinks she’s a doll. Little girls do this with their dolls, rename them on a whim. Your little girl has a name already – it’s Amelia and it’s absolutely fine, and it now belongs to her.”
