A man in his 20s has turned to the internet for support after revealing a long lost cousin he’s recently met and connected with is making it ‘obvious’ she’s attracted to him
A man has revealed the more-than awkward situation he finds himself in as a family member appears to be trying to “seduce” him for sex.
Writing on an online forum, a man in his 20s, has shared how he’s been reunited with a long lost cousin but she’s making their new found family connection difficult as she appears to be making it clear and “obvious” that she fancies him and is attracted to him. Turning to the forum for support, he’s asked for advice on how he can make it clear he isn’t interested as he ‘wants to be close’ but he’s unsure how to handle it.
In his Reddit post, he writes: “Here’s the best background I can give. We’re both adults, in our 20’s and we had no idea we existed until this year. A long lost type situation. And I really want to be close but she makes it very obvious she finds me attractive.”
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He continued on Reddit as he wrote: “I added her on snap [snapchat] and she posted full on nudes of herself the day she added me. Since then when we are alone theres always that vibe and she acts different when family is around vs just us.
“Honestly I try to act as if I don’t notice but idk what to do. I’ve tried to tell myself im imagining it but I’m definitely not. How can I handle this”.
One Redditor replied: “If she pulls any **** again, just turn the awkwardness around on her. Just say, “what are you doing?” Make it clear that you’re uncomfortable with this; that you have boundaries you’d rather not cross. Even if it IS a “long lost” situation, it sounds like she’s in your life now, so sleeping with her WILL cause familial issues.”
Another user added: “100% agree. best advice i’ve ever gotten is if someone is being weird or rude, asking them a question; like: ‘why would you say that?’ ‘what are you doing?’ ‘what do you mean by that?’ etc etc, because usually it causes the person to get flustered and embarrassed and instead of reacting to their behaviour, you’re shining a light on it and that person is able to perceive their own behaviour.”
A third simply put: “U can’t be close she’s making it weird nothing u can do but not hang out with her.”
Another person advised: “Maybe just tell her ‘Hey you know I can see your nudes on snapchat, right? Kinda weird since we’re related.’ Isn’t accusatory on the offchance it was an accident/you’re picking up the wrong vibe.”
One Reddit user urged: “People are being weird in comments so here is my take. I see two options if u are only spending time together sometimes and it’s not daily u can just try to ignore her and wait if she notice u are not reacting she hopefully give up and notice u are not interested. If u are truly uncomfortable about it and ignoring it is not an option u should tell her that u feel uncomfortable about the way she act around u and ask her to stop doing sexual/romantic stuff toward you. It might be a little weird and she might act annoyed at first but she should respect it. If not it’s just a cousins and your morality will feel much better. Good luck don’t be afraid to talk when u feel uncomfortable.”
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