How far would you go to find out what exactly your partner’s up to? One woman opened up a can of worms in her relationship, after claiming to have found a mysterious folder on her husband’s phone
The prospect of snooping on your partner’s phone can be pretty tempting – whether we like to admit it or not.
But one woman has now polarised the internet in aftermath of discovering a secret folder on her partner’s phone, opening a can of worms in her relationship. Before delving into her story, the anonymous Mumsnet user claimed she had always trusted her husband up until this point.
They’d certainly been going through a rough patch, and had apparently even discussed divorce following the birth of their new baby. Though, the one thing she’d held on to during this time was the idea that she never ‘needed to second guess anything he said’.
One morning however, all that changed. Taking to the platform, she wrote: “I saw he had a secure folder on his phone the other morning when I turned his alarm off, which I thought was very strange.
“I let it go for a day or two, but I just couldn’t shake the feeling that something wasn’t right. I didn’t know that [a] secure folder lets you have apps in it and I think that’s what worried me most.” Wondering what could possibly be inside this folder apparently then took over the woman’s mind.
She claimed that her initial suspicion was p*rn, which wouldn’t be detrimental to the relationship, even if it was ‘annoying’. But then she started to think – what if it’s Tinder, or a secret WhatsApp account or even a hidden contact? And in that moment, it was clear that she had to find out for certain.
“I decided I needed to ask him about it,” she wrote. “I asked him to open the folder last night. I didn’t want to go into [the] folders or anything but I needed peace of mind…I still can’t get out of my mind the look of sheer panic in his face.”
First, the partner allegedly claimed that he didn’t use it and had even forgotten the password to open it up. Acknowledging this, the woman then asked him to change it and show her what was inside – which she admits was ‘cheeky’.
“He said there was nothing in it and he had to go – he was going out all along, but in no hurry. I said, if he walked out the door without showing me, we would be over because my trust would be completely broken.
“He proceeded to say: ‘Ok, stop I’m going’. I knew if he left he would delete things from the folder and, regardless [of] what was in it to begin with, even if it was nothing, I will never believe him now.”
She later pleaded: “I so desperately wanted to give things a go but now with this loss of trust I don’t know if I can move past it… What do you think, what would you do?”
Unsurprisingly, the woman’s post has since been met with a flurry of comments, with some users even claiming to have experienced similar situations. One person wrote: “My ex husband had a secret password protected folder too, and it was where he would speak to the woman he was having an affair with on some chat thing.
“He had loads of photos of her. If someone asked to see something on my phone that they were feeling anxious about I would show them straight away to put their mind at rest!” Another later added: “Honesty is above all else the most important thing and that’s gone isn’t it? I think perhaps you need to mean what you said, the relationship is over. Explain to him, you meant it.”
Others however, claimed that having a locked app folder is actually no big deal and may even contain something like financial information or passwords. “I have a secure folder on my phone as I store some passwords and other memorable stuff in there,” one person stressed. “So, having one is not necessarily an issue. His reaction was a massive problem.”
Another wrote: “I have a secure folder on my phone. I use it to write about my eating disorder when it is active. If my husband asked what was in it (he doesn’t know it exists) I would struggle to show him because it is such a sense of shame and failure to me.”
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