A new mum has revealed how her husband is putting pressure on her to have sex six weeks after giving birth and she doesn’t know how to make him see reason
Giving birth takes a huge emotional and physical toll on a person’s body – regardless of what type of delivery. Most doctors recommend waiting at least six weeks after giving birth to have sex again, as this allows for general healing and for your body to recover.
However, it differs completely from person to person about when they feel ready to be intimate with a partner after welcoming a child. After all, there’s a lot of change going on, and just because they might be healed physically, emotionally, and mentally they might not be there yet.
A new mum has asked for advice on how to speak to her husband and tell him she’s not ready for sex. Sharing the delicate situation on social media, she wrote: I’m 5 weeks postpartum. I was induced at 42 weeks, took 36 hours for me to finally start pushing.
“The pushing only took 45 minutes, no tears or stitches, and went very smoothly. Anyways… my husband feels like as soon as the 6 week mark hits it’s going to be time to bone. He will not stop talking about how much he wants to have sex and is on my case about it.
“I gave him a b****** once and it felt icky. I literally have ZERO desire for sex. Even though there is no pain down there I still just can’t even with the thought of doing it. It clearly is making him crabby and he’s acting like a f****** baby.
“I tell him my body still went through a lot of change, there’s a giant wound in my uterus, and I literally just got done bleeding at 5 weeks. Plus I still have that strong lochia smell down there. I am NOT SEXY right now. I just need some pointers on how to deal with this.”
People reading the Reddit post were quick to offer some choice words about how to handle the husband. One person replied: “Tell him to go f*** himself. Literally. That’s the solution to his problem. And also tell him no one is sexually attracted to a whiny pestering little man. That the more he is a creep about this that only cares about himself the less attractive he becomes. Ew. I’m grossed out for you.”
And someone else shared: “I used to teach a class on healthy relationships and consent to teens and a boy asked me once if it was bad he basically had to pester his girlfriend into having sex with him.
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“I asked him if he really wanted to have sex with someone he was basically just wearing down into saying yes? A TEEN BOY had a little realization and agreed. If a teenager can figure out that it’s not sexy to convince someone to have sex with you, your husband can too!”
While another fed-up woman replied: “Ugh. If sexuality were a choice, no one would choose men.”
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