A woman has slammed her ‘ignorant’ husband online over a ‘rude’ habit he’s developed. While some agree the man is being ‘disrespectful’ – many have jumped to his defence
There’s trouble in paradise for one couple – and it’s all thanks to WhatsApp.
Communicating in the 21st century has never been easier, thanks to the slew of apps we constantly scroll on that allow us to send endless messages to one another: Instagram, X, Facebook Messenger, WhatsApp, iMessage – the list goes on. But are we obliged to reciprocate this constant bombardment, or is it rude to ever leave a message on read?
One wife is feeling pretty fed up with her ‘ignorant’ hubby who says he never responds to her messages, even though she doesn’t ‘pester’ him and doesn’t expect an ‘instant’ response.
Taking to Mumsnet, the anonymous woman says she only messages her partner if she has something that ‘requires input’ like asking if he’ll back back in time to take their son to football, or the caravan they own has been flooded.
“It may be one message a day that requires a response from him,” she added. “All messages are read and then ignored. I even see him online and on two of the most recent occasions, I know he was not working.
“He has a busy job so I do not expect a reply instantly. But nothing at all? Then sometimes as quick as five minutes after me sending a message he will comment or input something on the family chat we have with his siblings and parents. He will always reply to that or send memes on Instagram.”
The woman says her husband’s behaviour is now making her feel ‘really rubbish’ and would appreciate any kind of response rather than none. She claims to have addressed the issue before but not in a ‘serious way’ and the husband just laughed.
“I just can’t imagine ever being that rude to him that if he needed to know something that I just read it and ignore it,” the post reads. “I just don’t know if this is normal behaviour and that most husbands are the same or is it something I should raise?”
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Hundreds of users flocked to the comments section to share their thoughts – with many divided on the issue. Some sided with the wife, and branded her husband’s actions as ‘f***ing rude’.
“This isn’t normal,” one person wrote. “Does he treat you with contempt in other ways. I’d be writing ‘?’ and then ‘??’ etc every time I can see he has been online. And asking ‘is there a reason why you think it’s ok to ignore my messages but can reply to the family WhatsApp?'”
Another agreed, commenting: “I mean, first I’d bring it up again in a serious way – because it is disrespectful. But if that doesn’t work, I’d start doing the same to him. Maybe then it’ll sink in that it’s frustrating and rude.”
However, others backed the husband – arguing the woman ‘cut down her reliance’ on social media and WhatsApp. “Nothing more annoying that someone who is constantly messaging,” one person said. “Instead discuss what is important in person and leave messages/text for real urgent stuff.”
Another wrote: ” What’s wrong with calling?! Why is everything has to be governed my WhatsApp? Who’s got time for this? Also, why not ask before he sets of to work whether he is going to be back to take your son to football? And why a caravan question can’t wait until the evening, unless you expect him to drop everything and be there? I mean, none of this seems life and death situation which requires much input during working hours, to be honest.” While a third added: “My husband isn’t great at replying to me tbh but it doesn’t bother me.”
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