A 50-year-old mum was shocked to learn her partner is planning to leave everything in his will to their children, without making provisions for her. She shared her story on parenting platform Mumsnet
A wife has spoken of her worry after her partner decided to leave their children everything in his will – and her absolutely nothing.
The anonymous mum, 50, told popular parenting platform Mumsnet she was concerned the shock move from her man of 14 years was a “red flag” when it came to their relationship.
She shared how her partner was ten years older than her, increasing the chances he would pass away first, leaving her fears to come to fruition. “Am I being unreasonable that I’m annoyed now I’m doing his will his intention is to leave everything to the kids?” she asked fellow posters on Mumsnet.
“We have a ten year ago gap and I can’t help wondering what would happen to me if he died before me? He sees it as his stuff so he leaves to who he wants to but I think it’s a huge red flag coupled with the fact obviously he’s not popped the question too… feels to me like he doesn’t really see us as an US?”
The worried mum explained that her partner owned their house, with respondents agreeing she had cause for concern. “Being unmarried you won’t have many rights I’m afraid unless he dies while the kids are dependent on you,” said one. “You need a serious talk and then to start planning for your future.”
“You need to discuss with him why he would be happy to see you homeless after his death (if it occurred after the children became adults),” added another. “That is a pretty callous way to think about your partner and the mother of your children.”
Suggested options included trusts so the wife could live in the house until her death, when it would pass onto the kids, or buying herself a small flat or house to rent out in the future.
Other respondents cut straight to the jugular. “You need to leave him,” said one poster on Mumsnet. “At least then you might receive appropriate child maintenance as you sort out your own accommodation.”
“This man does not respect you,” cautioned a second, while a third added: “You know where you stand, and you can see what type of man he is and what he thinks of you.”
“You’re all so right,” agreed the Mumsnet poster, after advice flooded in about her situation. “I really did sleepwalk into this but I’m made to feel like I’m being really grabby and mercenary any time I bring it up.”
