A man has found himself in a sticky situation as he wants his mistress back despite rekindling his relationship with his wife – and now he’s desperate for advice
Sometimes, the grass isn’t always greener, but one man can’t make his mind up whether he wants his wife or his mistress.
While it’s not a position many people find themselves in, he realised once he’d rekindled with his wife, he then wanted his mistress back as he misses the “exciting sex”. The brazen bloke cheated on his wife with his colleague, who is half his age, but their steamy affair came to an end after his wife found out.
The 47-year-old has recently celebrated his silver wedding anniversary but said the chemistry with his younger colleague was “undeniable”. According to him, the age-gap lovers had “off-the-scale sex” doing things his wife would “never dream of”.
The man, who has been with his wife for 25 years, said she is a “lovely woman” and added that people always tell them how lucky they are to have each other – but deep down, he’s been keeping a huge secret.
The infidelity with a 23-year-old began after a few “work-related encounters”. He explained to The Metro’s agony aunt: “I foolishly ended up asking her out. Thus began an amazing affair, with off-the-scale sex involving things my wife would never dream of trying.”
However, his wife found when his mistress had sent him a birthday card to his home address – leading to an explosive confrontation. He called himself a “hopeless liar” and came clean.
He explained his wife went “ballistic” and told him to leave before breaking down and telling him she couldn’t bear to just give him away to someone else. After a heart-to-heart, the pair decided to try to make their marriage work and he ended things with his mistress.
“I ended things with my lover, but she was reluctant to let go and says she still loves me and wants me to marry her. I’ve told her we don’t have a future, but I can’t forget how exciting our sex life was. I feel torn between my desire for her and the love I feel for my wife,” he concluded.
The agony aunt said it’s not the age gap that’s the issue, it’s that he doesn’t say he loves her and it’s “good old fashioned lust.” They asked: “I’m sure she’s beautiful and the relationship was thrilling, but that early stage of infatuation can’t last. Other than fantastic sex, what do you have in common that could be the basis of a life together?”
She advised he should ‘firmly’ tell the mistress he’s not the man for her and said he needs to put all his energy into “reviving” his marriage and look at ways to spice up their sex life.
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