A woman has shared her horror after her date made a ‘boastful’ comment toward her when it came to paying the bill for their dinner – and it even made the waiter feel ‘awkward’
First dates are always a bit awkward, but this one might just take the crown.
It’s the age old question – who should pay for the first date? Some people still believe one party should pay for the entire thing, but it has become much more common for both people to split the bill. This method takes away all the stress and potential arguments that come with deciding who will pay, and ensures you don’t feel as though you owe your date anything if it doesn’t blossom into a romance.
But one woman was left gobsmacked after her date made a rude comment toward her when it came to paying the bill for their dinner. In fact, his 10-word response even made their waiter feel “awkward” as he stood waiting to see who would pay.
The woman claimed she is always “adamant” about splitting the bill on a date. However, when the bill arrived, her date made the “mortifying” assumption that she would expect him to pay for everything, as he flippantly asked her: “Do you want me to pay for this or what?”
In a post on Mumsnet, the woman explained: “I was a little anxious beforehand about the discomforts of the bill situation but was – and am – adamant about splitting bills on dates. I knew midway through meal that he was a t**t so decided to enjoy rest of meal and put it down to experience.
“I suggested at the end we call for the bill. It came. He looked at it, sat back on his chair and with a swerve of his hand pointing at the bill said: ‘Do you want me to pay for this or what?’ In a really nonchalant voice. I nearly died.
“I was so shocked at how he spoke to me. This boastful, popular, millionaire (his words) with his jaguar and photos of his palatial spread. The waiter caught sight of this and got awkward and left. I said ‘Of course we’re splitting it’ but in my 50 years of living on this earth, I have never been asked anything like this in such a way and I was mortified.”
The woman said her date “didn’t understand” what he had done to offend her, and said there was no chance of her ever agreeing to a second date with him, adding: “Not in a million years.”
In later updates to the post, the woman clarified that her date had been “rude” in his tone of voice as though he was accusing her of expecting him to pay the full bill when they hadn’t discussed payment at all beforehand. She also said she couldn’t stand his “atrocious” manners, so had no intention of seeing him again.
Commenters on the post were largely on the woman’s side, as they said the man seemed to be acting as though he was “doing her a favour” by offering to pay. One person said: “Sounds like a rude t**t. If he was offering to pay then he should be gracious about it and not make it sound like he’s doing you a massive favour.”
Another added: “If he’s boasting to potential dates about being loaded and then he’s setting himself up to fail in my opinion. He’d be better off keeping quiet until he gets to know someone better.” While a third also posted: “He sounds like a bit of an a**e with the boasting. As you were clearly not going to see him again I would have been tempted to say ‘Cheers, thanks’ and grabbed my coat and left.”
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