Even though she knows it was wrong to cheat on her husband, one woman said she doesn’t regret a second as she knew her marriage was ‘doomed’ from the start and got what she wanted in the end
Some cheaters never admit to betraying their partners, but this woman says having an afffair is the best thing she’s ever done.
The woman, who shared her story anonymously, says her marriage to her older husband was “doomed” from the start as they were simply “sexually incompatible”.
While she never imagined herself as an “adultress,” that view changed quickly when she was promised everything she’d ever wanted.
After having a year-long affair on her husband of 11 years, she told the Daily Mail that she’s not proud, but also isn’t ashamed either. In her view, this all boils down to one reason – if the illicit affair hadn’t happened, she’d never have become a mother.
The woman was “desperate” to have children and while stuck in her sexless marriage with a man 11 years her senior, she ended up falling pregnant with her secret lover.
“Things started to go downhill almost as soon as we were married. During our honeymoon in Sorrento, Italy, we didn’t make love at all. It was as if now he had a ring on my finger, he felt he didn’t need to try anymore. For the next ten years, I soldiered on, becoming increasingly unhappy as the gaps between intimacy grew ever longer. Within five years, we were in what counsellors call a sexless marriage: we had sex only a handful of times a year, always at my instigation,” she told the publication.
According to the wife, her feelings on wanting to start a family were made very clear, but her husband always said the timing was wrong or that they couldn’t afford to have children. When she started to envy her friends having kids, she said some friends had told her to leave her husband.
She then started to get close to a client at work and after a few times of meeting up for work events, she fell head over heels.
“I was honest with him about my marital status – I still wore my wedding ring – and the problems in my marriage, and he was understanding. The next evening, we met up again, and the chemistry between us was palpable. I remember standing at the bar, barely listening to what he was saying because all I could think was, ‘Please kiss me’. It felt like I’d climbed onto a rollercoaster, and I was powerless to stop,” she explained.
At the end of the night, she said they shared a steamy kiss, and one thing led to another. However, she said sleeping with him “didn’t feel like cheating” as she hadn’t been intimate with her husband in a whole year. The pair kept in contact and met up a couple of times over the next few months.
Then she finally came clean to her husband after being offered everything she’d always wanted by her secret beau – a family.
Her husband was “devastated” and the pair had a messy divorce, but once it had been finalised, the new couple started trying for a baby, and after they got married, they welcomed a baby boy. She said at that point, she knew it had “all been worth it”.
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