A mum has expressed her distaste for her son’s girlfriend, saying that some of the things she says are not only mean but could have a really detrimental impact on her other two children
A woman shared how she was secretly seething with her son’s girlfriend, labelling her as “very confident” but “judgemental”.
The concerned mum said her 23-year-old son met the woman while travelling, and the couple decided to stay with his family in London for three weeks before going to see hers. “She lives abroad and is a lot more rural, so that will be a nice change of pace for them when they stop with her family,” she shared.
During those weeks, however, the mum saw a side to his girlfriend that she wasn’t particularly fond of.
“The issue is I’m really struggling with his girlfriend’s personality; she is respectful, but I find her quite ‘a lot’,” she explained, going on to share some of the controversial things her son’s girlfriend has said.
Taking to Mumsnet, she wrote: “Obviously, there is nothing wrong with confidence, but I’ve also found her to be very judgemental. She has said multiple times that Brits are all so fat (as someone with a higher BMI, I feel like this is targeted), and she has said several times that British girls are ugly in front of my impressionable teen girls (13 and 16).
“She usually follows with ‘Not you guys, but generally’. I also feel like she is just overly opinionated in general, be it the food I cook, what I’m drinking, etc., she has something to say about everything.”
She also said she was fed up with their “public displays of affection,” fuming that “she constantly plays with his hair or his hands” and they’re always “kissing”.
“We went out to the pub for rugby on Saturday, and despite there being plenty of seats, she insisted on sitting on his lap, even feeding him food off her plate like he was a toddler,” she penned.
She said it was “relentless” and “uncomfortable,” writing: “There are other things I dislike, but I know aren’t really any of my business (her dress sense is very revealing, for one).”
The stressed-out mum finished her post by writing: “I’m finding it quite draining as. Obviously, she is always with my son, and I don’t enjoy her presence, so I almost avoid them both. I was so looking forward to having him home, but now I’m looking forward to them going).
“My husband thinks it’s just cultural, and I will learn to love her, but am I being unreasonable to feel like this because of these things?”
In the comments, 82% of people reckoned that she wasn’t being unreasonable, with some labelling her son’s girlfriend as “ghastly”.
Someone fumed: “Tell her to behave and cut all that ‘British women are fat/ugly’ sexist bulls**t out. That’s a really bad look, especially in front of your younger kids. In fact, so is all the sexualised behaviour. Have a word with your son, too. As a 23-year-old adult, he should be able to have a conversation about it.”
Another penned: “She just sounds rude. It takes someone deeply unpleasant to be sat around describing lots of people as fat and ugly. It’s just mean-spirited. I’d be unhappy if I had teenage girls overhearing this, as we should raise our children to be kind to everyone and not judge others based on appearance.
“The affection thing is gross, haha, but tbh, I was like that in my first relationship. I was like one of those dogs who always has to be touching you. Cringe but forgiveable if she was otherwise nice, but she isn’t!”
Somebody said that cultural differences were not an excuse, however, writing: “It’s not cultural, it’s rude! I’m European and hate it when people use this excuse for inappropriate behaviour. Most of my friends and family, also European, wouldn’t behave this way either – in fact, it’s the opposite!
“We are taught to have huge respect for elders, especially our partner’s parents. I used to love a slinky dress but would always dress a bit more modestly in front of my husband’s parents in the early days especially. I certainly wouldn’t sit on his lap during a family meal! Christ!”
