After finding out she was pregnant with her new boyfriend, the mum-to-be has now put herself in a seriously tough situation as she now misses her ex-partner who lives in a different country
Despite being pregnant and in a happy relationship, one woman has confessed it’s made her miss her ex-partner more than ever.
She explained how she’d moved to the UK from Lithuania six years ago and was in a long-distance relationship with her partner, who stayed in their home country. But after realising he would never move to the UK like he said he would, she decided to end their romance last year. And eight months ago, she met a new partner.
Now she’s found out she’s pregnant, she has realised it’s made her weigh up her options and admitted she can’t stop thinking about her ex in Lithuania and the ‘what ifs’ of their relationship.
The confused mum-to-be told Metro that her boyfriend had told her he would stay in Lithuania “just a bit longer” but by the start of 2024, she realised he would never move, so she ended things. While he was upset, she said it “seemed pointless” having a relationship with someone she hardly saw.
“He admitted he’d been hoping I’d eventually move back home, but I’m settled here now. Eight months ago, I started seeing a local guy, and I got pregnant, which was completely unplanned. My partner wants to move in with me and create a family together, but I can’t stop thinking about the boy I left behind,” she revealed.
While she speaks to her ex-partner regularly without her current boyfriend knowing, she hasn’t told him that she’s pregnant and further explained: “I know that what I’m doing isn’t right, but I can’t decide which way to turn. If I’m going to have a termination it has to be soon, but I don’t think that’s the right choice for me, I’m worried that I’ve ruined my life and that if I just let things go forward with the new guy and a baby, I’ll spend the rest of my days longing for my lost love.”
Confused by what to do, the advice given to her was to focus on the “here and now” as she had decided to move on with her new boyfriend before she fell pregnant, and not worry about what “might have been”. “Maybe you’re building this relationship up in your head, and life with him would not be anything as perfect as you imagine,” the advice continued.
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