A woman has shared how a waitress ruined her dress after she showed up to her uncle’s wedding wearing a black gown covered in white lace – making her wonder whether the server was doing the bride a favour
A woman has sparked a debate after sharing how she wore a dress with white lace to her uncle’s wedding – and ended up covered in red wine because of it.
The woman, now in her 30s, recalled how she was invited to her uncle’s wedding when she was 22-years-old – and was excited to attend the grand event.
Taking to Reddit, she said: ” Him and his wife, both in their 40s back then, are pretty well off financially. Just to give you an idea, her engagement ring alone was worth over 50k. They had an intimate wedding and ceremony, around 40 people max. The venue was at this big mansion. It was gorgeously decorated with what can only be a minimum of 30k dollars worth of flowers.”
Rather than receive wedding gifts, the couple asked their guests to spend the ‘extra’ money on their outfits for the special occasion. With this, the then 22-year-old went dress shopping with her mum with a £500 budget for a gown, shoes and accessories.
She added: “I went dress shopping at the same shop I went to buy my prom dress. They have a vast inventory of dresses and gowns and I figured I’d find something there worthy of a millionaire’s wedding. I really wanted to wear a black dress. I find it timeless and classic and beautiful. My mother was all bothered, like ‘Absolutely not, you are not wearing a black dress to a wedding, it’s a celebration, not a funeral’.”
As a compromise, she ended up buying a black dress covered in white lace. But when the big day rolled around, a ‘clumsy’ waitress changed her white lace to red after dropping an entire bottle of wine over her. She said: “During the main course, a server dropped the bottle of red wine on me. Not a glass, but a full bottle, freshly uncorked, dropped on my shoulder. 750 ml of red wine poured on myself and splashed on the man sitting beside me. I was drenched.
“I even had wine in my pants, so much I had to change underwear while my mother was trying to dry out my dress.” Her uncle ended up having the server removed and her new auntie made sure they paid for the dress to be dry-cleaned. But when sharing the story with her friends recently, she couldn’t help but question whether the server did it all on purpose.
Seeking answers, she added: “I was retelling this story and one of my friends said “Well… Of course you had red wine dumped on you, you wore white to a wedding” I never thought of it that way honestly, I was so focused on not wearing black (because black=funeral) that I never thought about the white lace on the dress.
“So, years later, was I the a***hole wearing white to my uncle’s wedding, and was the server only “doing her job” by dropping that bottle of wine (RIP Cabernet) on my black and white dress?” Commenting on her post, one user said: “If the white lace had covered the entire dress, maybe but borderline. Some brides do wear a black dress with some color but it sounds like that wouldn’t happen at this wedding. There is too much black to make anyone think bridal. Your friend was overreacting.”
“The dress wasn’t even a color that could be considered white adjacent, like light pink. It was black with white details. You can wear something like that to a wedding. It is not like everything white is off the table, it is entire white or white adjacent outfits are off the table. Black with some white here and there? Totally fine.”
A third user said: “I don’t think the server did it intentionally. it sounds like they were messing up and dropping things the whole wedding. However, unless told to wear white to a wedding by the bride, you should stay away from white.”
