The mum said she was fuming after six-year-old daughter returned with ‘ruined hair after her father decided to change their daughter’s hair without her knowing about it
The problem with co-parenting is you don’t always agree about everything about your children.
Most choices taken on the child’s involve both parents. but finding agreeing on what is best for children can be tough. Every day decisions do not usually need consultation, but things such as ear piercing or holiday plans really need both parents agreement. One mum was furious after six-year-old daughter returned with “ruined” hair after he decided to change their daughter’s style without her knowing about it. The Daily Record reported the situation which emerged on Reddit, after a mum said she had been apart from her daughter’s father for most of the child’s life.
They, however, kept a “shared parenting agreement” and still “get along so-so”, which suggested there were ‘no significant conflicts’ over their daughter. But after celebrating her daughter’s sixth birthday with her dad she returned with ‘bright pink hair’. The mum said the dye was “permanent and incredibly vibrant”, and believes her daughter’s hair is spoiled.
She said: “My daughter just turned six and wanted pink in her hair. Her father dyed half of her hair this pink/fuchsia colour with an at-home dye kit. “I am so upset, the dye is permanent and incredibly vibrant. I wouldn’t have minded a few streaks of pink here and there and if it were PROFESSIONALLY done.”
The debate increased as the mum looked for opinions on her response to the home hairdo, which split sentiment online. Some people criticised the dad for not consulting her before taking the plunge. But others reassured her box dyes fade fast and could be sorted out soon. Others posters said the mum should calm down about it as her daughter ‘seemed thrilled’ with the outcome.
One commenter posted: “Pink box dye is going to fade out very quickly. It won’t stay that vibrant for long at all. Just let her enjoy it for a little while, and once it starts looking faded take her to a salon to get it fixed up. This doesn’t have to be a big deal.” Some people reckoned it was an oversight and the father simply wanted to allow his daughter a bit of freedom and do something which was fun
A poster on the forum added: “Sounds like dad wanted to do something fun and cool with his daughter and didn’t think ‘ask mum first’. Separated or not, this is a pretty classic issue and not the hill to die on. Hair is fixable. More importantly… is your daughter happy? If so, laugh it off and let her have fun expressing herself.” A third brought up custody etiquette, advising: “These kinds of things should be spelt out in the custody agreement. In our family, haircuts aren’t even allowed unless both parents agree.”
