An American bride has shared her list of six strict rules she’s making her bridal party follow in order to ensure the big day is all about her, or they can’t take part
A bride has sparked debate online after sharing list of six rules she’s making her bridal party follow, saying she’s reminding them of the guidance every day until the wedding.
Planning a wedding can be stressful. From getting the right invitation, finalising the guestlist and organising the venue, there’s not much time for things to go wrong.
To make the process easier, a South Carolina-based bride named Shay Stewart took to her Instagram page to share six rules she’s making her bridal party follow in order to make her wedding day as perfect as possible for her and her groom. Each rule begins with “It’s NOT your day,” and focuses on appeasing the bride, which has caused some commotion on social media.
Her first rule sets the tone for the rest: “Do what the bride asks or don’t be in the wedding.” The following rules are equally as stern, highlighting the importance of keeping the bride in the spotlight and not causing any wedding day issues.
The next rule also highlighted the fact that it wasn’t the bridal’s party day, before saying: “If the bride wants makeup or certain hair for everyone, and you don’t wear makeup — don’t be in the wedding.
“It’s usually the ones who scream ‘I don’t want all that’ who end up looking less flattering than everyone else.”
However, she did say that she would be more flexible with hairstyles if you already have an alternative cut, such as a pixie cut. Rules number three to five all highlighted the behaviour and actions she wanted her bridesmaids to follow.
“3) It’s NOT your day. Act how you would want YOUR bridal party to act, IF it was your day,” she wrote. “4) It’s NOT your day. You look jealous when you object to every little thing, ESPECIALLY things you have NOT paid for. Be grateful or don’t be in the wedding. 5) You are TEAM BRIDE. If you would wish to act like anything less, switch to TEAM GUEST. Have a seat and throw rice (preferably uncooked).”
And since we all know that weddings can be expensive for everyone involved, she said she wanted people to be up front with her if they couldn’t afford something.
“”6) It’s NOT your day. If you can’t afford to be in the wedding, let the bride know up front. Don’t accept and then penny pinch, ESPECIALLY if it’s one year or more out. Plan accordingly.”
“WILL BE SHARING THIS EVERYDAY TIL THE WEDDING,” she concluded.
While there are no comments on the Instagram post, the rules were shared on a Wedding shaming forum on Reddit, where people called her out for being too demanding.
“At least she’s giving everyone a daily chance to join TEAM NOT GOING,” one person wrote, while a second person said: “The rules are reasonable but not generally acreamed out by the bride daily. Makes you wonder what else shes telling them.”
“This is absolutely insufferable. A prime example of why wedding culture has become exhausting. I could go on but I’m seething just reading this and want to log off,” a third user said.
