The confused woman said that during a city break for their two year anniversary her 30-year-old boyfriend suggested posing for a “fake proposal” in front of the Eiffel Tower
A woman has spoken out after her boyfriend’s actions on what was supposed to be a romantic trip to Paris left her asking people whether she was in the wrong.
The confused woman said that during a city break for their two-year anniversary, her 30-year-old boyfriend suggested asking a stranger to take a picture of them in a “fake proposal” in front of the Eiffel Tower. The 28-year-old said she was shocked at the odd plan but in her refusal to take part, appeared to have upset her partner in the process.
She posted on Reddit, asking if she was the a**hole. She said: “When he asked this, my heart started beating so fast, I immediately assumed he was saying ‘fake proposal’ as a ruse for a real proposal, which is not something we have talked about yet.
“I think I just said ‘wait what do you mean?’ and he said that proposal pictures in this spot were really popular and that we should ‘take the opportunity’ while we can. I said that I wasn’t really interested in a fake proposal picture and that I thought it was weird that he would suggest that. We moved on pretty quickly and went to dinner.”
She added: “When we got back to our hotel that evening I asked him about it, since it had been on my mind and I could tell that I had actually really upset him. I asked him explicitly ‘were you planning on actually proposing to me and I ruined it?’ and he said no, that he doesn’t think we are ready for that step (and for the record, I agree. Our relationship was long distance for the first 8 mo and I am planning on moving in with him when my lease is up in January).
“He said that he always thought the proposal picture in front of the Eiffel Tower was really romantic and that he’s worried whenever he actually does propose it won’t be as romantic as Paris, so he wanted to get the picture while we could.”
The majority of those commenting agreed that she was not the one in the wrong, with some going so far as to say this was a “red flag” in their relationship. One said: “It is weird. And also tone deaf on his part. Like, what was he planning on doing with the photos? Anyone seeing them online would instantly think it was genuine before reading any accompanying text that explains it’s “fake”.
“The only way it would make sense is if he actually was planning on proposing and is too proud now to admit it. Fake proposals aren’t romantic. Even in front of the Eiffel Tower. And if he’s bummed because he genuinely just wanted to do a fake proposal for shits and giggles and you said no, then boohoo, he’s an adult, tell him to get over it.”
Another added: “On the one hand he’s right that he might not have as romantic a spot to propose, when the time comes. But WTF are you supposed to do with “fake” proposal pictures? Save them until you get engaged and then send out 2yo photos and have everybody say “did they go to Paris again?”
With another adding: “He did miss an opportunity – you could’ve just taken a cute couple photo at the Eiffel Tower, like the two of your kissing. Why bring a fake proposal into it. He ruined a romantic moment with a very weird suggestion.”
