A man is heartbroken after he uncovered a mammoth secret that his wife has been hiding from him for their entire six-year marriage – and now their relationship is in tatters
Honesty is always the best policy when it comes to relationships.
In the early days of a relationship, it can be tempting to do whatever it takes to cover up any mistakes you might make, as you could fear that your slip-up will end the romance too soon. However, it’s better to own up to things you’ve done or lied about because if the relationship ends up being a long-term one, it’ll only be worse when your partner eventually finds out.
That’s the exact predicament one man has found himself in with his wife of six years, as he recently discovered she hid a massive secret from him when they first started dating – and now it’s threatening their marriage. The man said shortly after they started dating, his wife cheated on him and never told him, leaving him to find out by stumbling upon old messages sent six years ago.
The man said he and his wife met when they were 17 and got married a year later, and the affair happened twice – both when they started dating and shortly after their wedding. Although they were young when they got together, the man insisted their relationship had seemed fantastic so far, and they have two beautiful children.
However, things came crashing down when he received a “massive amount of screenshots” including images and messages exposing his wife’s infidelity. He admitted he “yelled” at his wife for the first time in his life after seeing the evidence, and she “confirmed everything” – leaving him heartbroken.
In a post on Reddit, he claimed: “I had a panic attack for the first time and had to make a monumental effort to run out and not let my children see me. I had trouble breathing, I wanted to vomit so badly and my body was shaking non-stop.
“And now what? I went to a friend’s house. I don’t want to see her right now, but I miss my children. I talk to them on the phone every day, but I still don’t know what I want to do. It’s my house, I don’t want to kick her out because her parents have already returned to their country of origin, she has no one here.
“I don’t even know if I want to stay married; I feel used; I feel like the only thing I was really proud of, which is being a good father and a good husband, is a farce.”
The man said he doesn’t know who sent him the information as he was “blocked immediately” after the messages came through, but he believes it could be the man his wife had her affair with. He claimed his friends have advised he forgive her since the infidelity was so long ago, but he is crushed and doesn’t know if he can ever trust her again – especially as she seemed to have no intention of ever telling him herself.
Commenters on the post were split on the issue, as while some said his wife should have come clean sooner, others pointed out she was 17 at the time of the infidelity and likely immature, as well as scared to come forward.
One person said: “Once trust is lost, it’s impossible to regain. You may choose to stay, but this pain and distrust you’re feeling right now will never go away.” Another added: “My only advice is whatever you do. Don’t make the decision now. You’re mad; no judgment, I would be too. But angry, hurt and upset people don’t make good decisions.”
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