A lovestruck 27-year-old toyboy has found himself dealing with a frustrating issue with his cougar girlfriend, 49, despite their antics in the bedroom being ‘fantastic’
A 27-year-old toyboy couldn’t be happier with his cougar girlfriend – but their age gap has thrown up a tricky sticking point.
According to this lovestruck man, he’s ‘proud’ to be with his 49-year-old partner, who he describes as ‘beautiful, confident, independent and fantastic in bed’.
Although at first, he faced a bit of ribbing from his mates, who referred to him as a ‘toyboy’, this troubled Romeo views his lover’s mature age as a positive, with her experience meaning she ‘knows exactly what she likes and how to please’ him.
Unfortunately, although he’d be happy to shout about their relationship from the rooftops, she doesn’t quite feel the same way and, three years in, she’s still too ’embarrassed’ to introduce him to her family and friends…
In a desperate letter penned to The Sun’s Dear Deirdre Sally Land, the anonymous romantic shared how, although they now spend several nights of the week together – as well as every weekend together – it’s always at his home, not hers.
Although many of his friends have found the age difference confusing, close pals have now come to accept that the relationship is based on far more than just sex. And he can’t understand why she can’t welcome him into her world in quite the same way.
Sharing his woes, he wrote: “It’s starting to get me down. I’m not bad looking, have a good job and my own home. I can’t understand why she’s ashamed of me. We have a lot of interests in common, and she’s never made me feel she thinks I’m immature.
“I’ve told her how happy she makes me and that one day I’d like to marry her. But that can’t happen if she is keeping me a secret. As far as I’m concerned, age is just a number. Why can’t I make her believe that too?”
Responding to the author’s dilemma, agony aunt Sally reasoned that, although many age gap couples do indeed enjoy ‘happy, lasting relationships’, society can often be all too quick to pass judgement.
Sally advised: “Perhaps your girlfriend feels she will be judged harshly, or her friends won’t have anything in common with you. She may be concerned about the future – for example, if you want children, which she won’t be able to give you.
“Or she may also not truly believe you’re in it for the long haul. Alternatively, perhaps she isn’t, which is why she’s keeping you to herself. You need to talk to her openly about your worries. Tell her how you feel and ask her to be honest.”
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