A heartbroken woman who experienced a ‘girl’s worst nightmare’ in her last relationship has shared one thing other people need to stop doing after messy breakups
A young woman has become the internet’s favourite advisor when it comes to relationships – and has shared what to do if you are going through a breakup.
Although February is synonymous with being the most romantic month of the year thanks to Valentine’s Day (February 14), it is also the month when National Breakup Day (February 21) comes around. Three years after its inception, the national holiday has gained popularity and offers a chance for people to assess their relationships and make changes they deem necessary, even if that means ending it.
Breakups are no easy feat, especially if you believe you had found ‘the one’. One woman has shared her heartbreaking story, and how she’s managing life post her ex. Lauren J Nicole, who boasts over three million followers on TikTok, has had back-to-back relationships since she was 15 and admits she always tries to “fix people” she dates.
Lauren’s last relationship was hardest to get over out of them all. She openly shared that it was a “very messy breakup”. Lauren explained: “Every girl’s worst nightmare pretty much happened to me in my last relationship. He left me for a girl he was friends with our entire relationship.”
“He did not consider me or my feelings when that girl was in his bed,” she added.
Speaking about her feelings, she added: “I did one of the hardest things in the world do after that and I asked myself ‘why do I keep getting my heart broken’. I’m not saying I deserved that or any girl does, but what I realised is that I am drawn to broken people and I think a lot of us are.
“The part I’m struggling with the most, is figuring out how to let go of someone I never ever had in the first place. You know when you fall in love with someone’s potential and create an entire version of them in your head? Yeah, that’s what I did.”
While trying to navigate her own life post him, she has shared her advice online after learning what not to do after being left heartbroken. She wants others to put themselves first.
Lauren said: “It’s time for some big sister advice, you’ve got to stop checking on them. You think it’s helping you heal, keep up with their life, you’re checking their stories, you’re checking their friends, you are making it so much harder on yourself. You think it is just a harmless check in, but you would be shocked at how much better off you will feel if you stop.”
She also said people need to let past relationships lose them, instead of feeling like you lost it. Lauren said: “Let them lose, let them. Let them miss out on someone as amazing as you and everything you have to offer, because you know what it is not your job to convince someone that you’re worthy.”
“Something you have to let go of the person you want, for the person you deserve,” she added.
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